Conflict, Leadership and How to Win
Going for Win Win Solutions
Much of leadership is about relationship building. It helps to see the other person’s point of view. Focus on the other person and to be interested in them. If you are interested you will never run out of questions and conversation especially if you genuinely care about the answers.
It is great that people have been reading my pieces on a culture of conflict. I have been asked what it would take to achieve a win-win solution. This is a great question. Win win negotiations find solutions that are acceptable to both parties, and leaves both parties feeling they have won.
Even in an adversary role, a conciliatory attitude is more likely to result when you turn from self interest to the other person’s interest. A helpful approach is to put aside self interest and think about the other person’s needs and wishes. When you do you will find common ground, understanding and acceptance. Entering into an honest discussion that details the reasons for conflict helps bring clarity, understanding and appreciation for the other person’s position. It pays to listen and pay attention to what the other person is saying. Through open discussion our opinions can be honed and clarified. Stephen Covey reminds us to seek first to understand, then to be understood.
Nothing bad is all bad (Mexican proverb)
Every time I have a birthday, every time I blow out the candles, every time I see a shooting star, I wish for the same thing…inner security ( Richard Dreyfuss).